As we wind down and start to celebrate the end of 2018, I’ve been doing a bit of reflecting. It has been a very interesting year with a lot of new beginnings. It’s the year I created Explore with Ola, I went back to school, moved away, etc, etc. I think it’s super important to reflect on the successes and failures of the past in order to effectively plan for the future. I’ve recently done just that and before getting to New Year Resolutions talk, here are a few pretty important lessons I learned in 2018!
Everything Happens For a Reason
Super cliché, I know! I talked a little bit about this throughout the year, like in this post. I’ve learned that when our plans don’t work out, it’s probably because God has a better plan and every dissappoinment does end up being a blessing. It is important to not lose hope or get discouraged by your current situation because trust me, there is always light at the end of that tunnel. Besides, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and every detour on your journey will sum up to a beautiful story in the end.
Emotional Independence is Key
About halfway through the year, I realized I was quite emotionally dependent on my circumstances, relationships, etc. I decided that I wanted to be joyful on my own terms and basically take more control over my emotions. This is easier said than done, I know, but seriously, we need to examine the reasons for our joys and sadnesses. Being emotionally independent is to be able to make yourself happy regardless of your circumstances. This is an ongoing journey which took a lot of introspection, prayer, and meditation but it is so worth it. There is so much freedom in true joy. It also makes for much healthier relationships.
All about Self-Care
This was the year of the “I can’t come and kill myself” movement as launched by the hilarious influencer, Melissa. While I believe this statement should not be taken to the extreme since on one hand, I’m definitely one to “kill myself” a.k.a work super hard and do whatever it takes to achieve a goal; it is wise to discern those moments where you really should prioritize self-care in order to prevent burnout. I learned that making time for yourself can be just as important as working hard. After all, life is all about balance.
About Time Management
Time management is one of those things that are tremendously important for a successful life but can be so elusive. I always used to pride myself on being able to multi-task and effectively manage my time and juggle lots of responsibilities. Reflecting on this year, I realize that I definitely procrastinate a lot more than I would be proud to admit🙈. For example, it would probably be more beneficial to read more books rather than binge watch tv shows. Let’s just say my time management could use some improvement. This is one area that will def make it to my NY resolutions.
On Being a Blogger…
I’d definitely still consider myself a novice in this blogging world. One thing I would say is that blogging is a LOT more work than anyone would expect. Sooo many hours, effort, planning, editing goes into a post that’ll probably only earn a quick 30-second to one-minute glance from many people. Although currently, the cost outweighs the material benefit, I still absolutely love it and won’t consider quitting. It’s always a great feeling to see the final product of each post and how all the different pieces come together.
Music Makes a Big Difference
Music is more powerful than we think. I listened to more gospel music over the year and it is a habit I would absolutely encourage anyone looking to enrich their spiritual lives, to develop. More important to know though is that we were all created differently, and so everyone connects with God in a different way; some through nature, music, relationships, social interactions, etc. This year I learned that I experience God most during worship so naturally, listening to Gospel music more made a big difference in my mental state in general.
God Over EVERYTHING
Speaking of connecting with God, in 2018 I discovered that God is the answer to EVERYTHING. There is so much to say about having a relationship with God which I couldn’t possibly do justice or put in words. Basically, knowing that God, the creator, is always with you and loves you unconditionally, makes all the difference. Life is so short on earth so it is important to have an eternal view and not fret too much about the things that are just temporary. I am definitely not perfect and that’s the beautiful thing. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by God.
How has your year been? What’s a lesson you learned this year?
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INSPO OF THE DAY: “I will praise you, Lord my God, with all my heart;
I will glorify your name forever.” (Psalm 86:12NIV)